When someone describes themselves as a people-please, rescuer, caregiver, or perfectionist it raises a red flag to me. Here is why:
These behaviors are typically rooted in dysregulation. They are not ‘personalities’ but instead learned survival patterns that a person has unconsciously adopted to feel ‘safe’, connected with others, enough in society, or a sense of control.
These behaviours when fed with the unconscious mind as a way to be safe or enough will keep a person spinning and can often lead to these individuals slowly overtime have signs of chronic illness show up. You were not made to be this way. To be constantly thinking about others and neglecting yourself. Healing happens when we can recognize these survival patterns of us and learn to distinguish them and see how they show up in our life.
What is my reason and driving force behind all this people pleasing, rescuing, and perfectionism I have going on? Is it authentic, appropriate, and necessary to be doing these behaviors? Does it feel like the world will end if I do not? Likely this means it is tied to your sense of safety and belonging. Take an honest look at yourself, can you come home to who God made you to be just as you are? Not driven by accomplishments, performance, being noticed, perfect, or selfless? What if just being is enough and the door will open for you to help and work where you should? What if you, yourself, just you, is enough in this moment. What if you are loved without the actions and performance?
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