“Children become who we tell them they are.
Tell them they are strong, and they will become strong.
Tell them they are kind, and they will become kind.
Tell them they are capable, and they will become capable.”
-Amy Weatherly
Although NSR is mainly for adults, we are very passionate about how this work all works in our children’s favor as well. I often get asked how someone can help their young child with certain health issues they are facing. (Harsh truth coming up) The truth is, your child’s health issues are quite likely connected to your own state of being as a parent, your way of parenting, your level of dysregulation or regulation, and your relationship with your child. Childrens brains are not fully developed until their 20s. As a 5 or even 12-year-old, they depend on you to find their sense of safety, love, and belonging. Children do not have the ability to be as an adult when it comes to decision making, processing emotions, being rational, and responsible. Even you as an adult struggle from time to time with working through situations with your brain that is fully developed, never mind if it wasn’t.
To have a greater understanding with what is really going on underneath the emotions, disconnect, stubbornness, tantrums, and anxiety will not fix everything, but it will help you work through these tough situations with a better perspective and understanding.
Once the parent has learned the tools at NSR and applied them to themselves, so many are able to then use that same approach with their children. I have heard of the most beautiful transformations between parent and child happening when these tools are being applied to their way of parenting and responding to their children. These tools can help parent and child work through challenging emotional states and come to a place of deeper connection, felt sense of safety, and regulation in the end.
Your own limbic system is like a 3-year-old when super active. Trust me, you can relate to your 3-year-old better than you know once you understand how the nervous system works. When we can take this approach there is way more understanding, compassion and connection that can help between parent and child.
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