Why you might not be getting results with NSR.
Below are some reasons to consider if you are struggling to see changes with NSR. You have purchased the course with great hopes, diving into the modules with excitement. You completed the course and now, let’s heal! But it is not going as smooth and easy as you wished. It might be slower, or harder even. Maybe your symptoms even got worse.
Not catching SLIPS
You could be missing a lot of SLIPS. Giving yourself room or time off from brain retraining. Allowing negative conversations with others about symptoms, rehashing your past, your illness, and still identifying yourself as someone who is not well.
A brain retrainer must be diligent with cutting that cord. The words you say, the thoughts you think all have a path in your brain. Every time we go down that path, we are letting it stay. Also, understand when starting out it is so normal to feel a sense of overwhelm with how many SLIPS there are as we re-commit to noticing and redirecting them. This is normal and overtime they get less.
Not connecting mind and body
You might be doing the actions, like PAUSE and somatics, from a place of fixing instead of working with your nervous system. The tools become a checklist instead of a time of connection to these wounded parts of us. When symptoms don’t go away after trying a tool, you might easily step into frustration. Also evaluating a lot whether the tools worked this time or not.
We need to step back and see the bigger picture, understanding that this type of healing takes time. You are doing something so much deeper than what appears obvious to your conscious mind. Often it can take months to lay a foundation of brain retraining before we notice the shifts outwardly. One of the things you are doing when using your tools is signaling safety to our survival brain, by approaching healing with a fix-it mentality, we are leaning into the idea something is wrong and that is not safe We are also supporting the idea that it is not safe to have symptoms and they must go away in order for us to be ok. Instead, approach this healing with the idea that you are signaling safety and creating new neural pathways that are healthier. You can be ok with or without symptoms. With time, these symptoms will go away as the nervous system feels safe and the new pathways are stronger then the old ones. As you learn to not make a deal about the symptoms, the brain catches on. "They are not important to you, we don't need them." Healing requires trusting. Doing the tools and trusting even if it seems there is no progress. Because that very obsession over the presence of symptoms and gauging them is the thing keeping you from healing.
A timeline
Are you giving yourself a timeline? Even subconsciously? Are you counting the months and thinking you should be farther by now? Trying to rush healing and forcing yourself to process and feel certain emotions and sensations before you are ready can be counterproductive. Healing involves honoring your body’s natural pace and allowing emotions to surface in their own time. As your nervous system feels safe to feel and process, the layers will be worked through in their time. Your job is to continue to support your nervous system with NSR’s tools, creating an opportune environment for these layers and healing. Our idea of how fast we think we should heal can make limby feel very unsafe. Maybe you wanted a quick fix and wanted to see results immediately. Maybe you are applying the same intense approach to healing that contributed to nervous system dysregulation in the first place. Everyone has a different timeline. It is extremely rare to heal in 6 months and nearly impossible. On average it takes individuals 1-3 years and that is by being diligent. The nervous system heals with slow, steady steps. Take the pressure off and enjoy the ride. Make it fun and lighter. Challenge your comfort zone, taking the growth mindset with you, but also trusting you are right on time.
Not at the end of your rope.
Could your desire to heal not be bad enough you are willing to wait for results? You maybe haven’t exhausted enough other options to be convinced of jumping in brain retraining with both feet. To be right honest, leaving one foot hanging out in the old paths with google search, referrals, doctors, and clinics will keep you from healing. (This is not medical advice, and we are not against trying out other modalities. It is how we continue to approach them that makes the difference. Ideally you do want to close most of those doors quite a ways and that is most everyone’s goal when they do brain retraining.) Are you relying on motivation to heal? Then lets imagine a motivation that comes and goes and pretty soon you are floundering as soon as it gets hard. You must want healing enough that you rely on your commitment to keep you steady vs your motivation. When things get hard, different then expected, or take too long and slow, motivation simmers down to pretty much nil sometimes. But if you have great commitment that will get you much farther. A steady commitment to the process no matter the road will get you progress.
Not using your tools in the moments they were made for.
When things get tough, instead of using your tools, allowing yourself to step into old pathways and only using tools when you feel up to using them. They come as a back burner option. This continues to reinforce old pathways. The tools at NSR are for hard times as well. It can be super hard to choose to respond differently in those moments, but that choice will add up overtime and make the biggest difference in the long run. Maybe your symptoms have appeared to be getting worse. Fear is creeping in versus tools. If this is you, consider booking a coaching session where they can help you understand why this can happen and shift your perspective. Getting guidance from a coach is 100% part of the process, no shame in that. When things get what seems to be harder, I call this the ‘thawing process’. (There is a whole science to it, trust me) But how would you know that if I hadn’t told you? Enter coaching, where you can gain courage and tools to navigate these layers versus fear and floundering. Our limbic systems are responsible for making these bumps or stalls seem so big and sticky. When we can better understand the tricks of our limbic system we can go so much farther.
Expecting change without work
Simply not applying the program and expecting change. I’ve had people say they are not getting results, or they are struggling. We start coaching and I find out they aren’t even doing PAUSE. Friends, if you are struggling, but not using your tools, like PAUSE, what do you expect is going to happen?
There are those who then decide, they would like to recommit. So, for one week they diligently do PAUSE 4 times a day and come back saying “Wow, my week went so good!” Be willing to do the work without instant gratification. See the bigger picture. RELY ON YOUR COMMITMENT TO BE WHAT KEEPS YOU GOING, NOT YOUR MOTIVATION. Your motivation is going to come and go. Keep your commitment and your why close to you to keep you going. If we want great healing, we need to think greater than the present moment.
Not implementing all 7 keys
Maybe there is too much focus on just PAUSE or just somatics. And we are leaving out certain Keys.
Key #7 (Mood elevation)) You could be taking your healing too serious and forgetting to laugh, smile, connect and flow with life more lightheartedly. You are healing when you smile, laugh and play. Are you continuing to see healing as a checklist and not making it a complete lifestyle shift. Simply doing PAUSE and going back to the rest of the day? Or doing somatics and then back to the grind.
Key #8 (Community) Trying to heal in isolation and on your own. The nervous system requires co-regulation to heal.(Especially for woman. We are designed to need others) It is necessary to connect with other like-minded individuals that help you feel seen, loved, and supported along your healing journey.
Try what we have to offer, we at NSR have coached over many, many clients in the last couple of years. Many come struggling, but they were brave enough to try one more thing, coaching. They reached out when it was hard and understood that coaching is 100% part of the healing process. The course is only the beginning step. You must experience life to uncover layers, it takes time and living to go through healing in depth. A coach can help you navigate a layer more specific to you. Our coaches' clients have walked away feeling much more courage and insight from having a 1:1 chat. We have coached people from many different unique paths and situations. Male and female, young and older. We can also offer you guidance on more resources specific to your struggle. The brain retraining world is huge and there are thousands of incredible people with programs, coaching, resources and healing that has happened. People have healed from incredibly debilitating illnesses that the medical field deemed incurable and they are now also helping others. Be a giver on the forum, not just a silent taker reading the messages. You will find that when you share your own wins and progress it helps boost you as well. It is helping focus on the good. Many people have found joining the support groups is nearly vital to their healing as they have significantly noticed how beneficial it is to have healthy connections with others like them.
Take NSR out of a box and open your heart and mind to the idea that anything is possible when both feet are in. Anything.
A pep talk for you
Make changes in this season of healing. Pursue things you love, find ways to have more connection, let your inner child come out, say no to gossip and news. Slow down and savor, fill your day with glimmers. Change the way you talk, the words you say, the posture you have. Do not talk about symptoms and labels. When someone asks how you are, say I’M GOOD! Talk and live like you want to be and your brain will have no choice but to change the way it fires too. If you do need to be heard, speak to 1 person who can hear you well and validate instead of constantly sitting in it and telling lots of people about it. When you have a challenging day, know that it’s just a day, it will pass. When you have an ebb, see it as an ebb moment not an ebb week, any time your symptoms could shift. Dive right into the brain retraining world as much as you can. Dive in with both feet. Those that are the most successful are the ones who give it everything they can. It is truly up to you. Do you want healing? Then take it, it is yours. Believe that you will find healing and you are already on your way to getting it. If you have not been well for 5+ years, what is a couple years of healing to have health again? Small, consistent changes add up to big results over time. You got this!!!! ā¯¤ļø¸
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